What I’ve noticed lately…

I’ve been repeating myself. What I mean is I’ve been saying this same analogy to my clients recently, which revolves around change and leaning into change when you don’t have all the answers yet.

If you’re feeling reluctant or ambivalent about a specific change or creating change, I get it. I see you. While I tend to embrace change these days, I can still get triggered myself.

While some of us run toward change, some of us avoid it altogether. Based on my experience personally and working with clients, I’ve seen that change is typically about control to some degree.

We want to control a certain outcome. We want to anticipate all the what-ifs. We don’t want things to change or rather have it go back to the way it was before. We [Continue Reading...]

You’re Allowed to Change Your Mind…

What worked for you the last three years, last three months, or even the last three weeks, just may not be serving you well any longer. Kind of feels even out of alignment with who you are or what you really want or need now and going forward.

Still, somehow you tend to get caught up in the keep-on-doing-the-same-approach, because it’s easier, familiar, and feels safer than trying something new, or so you believe.

In being honest with yourself, consider the possibility of feeling lighter and more at ease. Then imagine the potential that could be if you let yourself welcome the adventures and joy in a different decision. What would that look like for you?

You’re allowed to Change Your Mind and Approach…

In what you desire from a partner in a relationship. In [Continue Reading...]

I’ve Decided…

“I’ve decided” is ranked high on the list, as the two most powerful words you can say. Because there’s a commitment behind it, it’s a conviction! Claim what you want, what you want to step into.

Implementing this principle made a huge difference for me, and I’ve seen the same happen for my clients. It creates change, results, and desires become a reality. Anything I’ve wanted came from making a decision first.

Once you’ve decided, you start to take actions that support that decision, quite often easily and immediately. It’s like, of course, I’m doing this because I’ve-decided-and-the resistance-excuses-have-lifted. It simply doesn’t have the same hold on you. There’s this powerful force or momentum that you’ve aligned yourself with and what you stand for.

Want clarity on how to do this for yourself? [Continue Reading...]

Making Too Many or Not Enough Sacrifices?

When I was working in corporate, I once had a boss tell me that all the HRBPs from another site, slept with the work phone right next to their pillow to respond immediately (emails/texts/calls) to the VP, HR, or some other perceived urgent matter from their client groups.

“I won’t be doing that.” I boldly said, with my stomach clenched in knots.

As a recovering workaholic, boundaries with myself, and boundaries with my boss, needed to be maintained. I promised myself.

Pretty sure, my response pissed off my boss. Not because I wouldn’t budge and do the same. What a ridiculous suggestion or hint as an expectation!

More so, what I sensed annoyed my boss, my defiance to not let my job take over my life. No longer would I sacrifice my well-being and [Continue Reading...]

Sleeping issues lately? I’m with you.

For me, lately, my sleep schedule has been all over the place. I find it hard to motivate myself to go to bed, because I tell myself, I haven’t accomplished enough for that day.

At the same time, I tell myself, I deserve to relax and not work so hard or extended hours into the evening.

Then starts the next day cycle, my overly ambitious thinking I can accomplish 10 high-priority things in one day. But first…snoozing for 30 min to 1 hour after my alarm! What a sleep pattern cycle, I’ve created for myself. (Btw, I know anything more than 3-5 priorities in a day is too many.)

Wait, I just checked; there are 12 different tasks on my schedule today. All must get done. Are you with me here?

No wonder, I’m [Continue Reading...]