Setting Boundaries – Being Bold or Less Confrontational

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At a very young age, I learned that I needed to distance myself from people who weren’t truly my friends and even from my mother who has a dysfunctional approach to life. Basically, I came to understand the importance of creating boundaries to protect myself. As detached and awful as this might seem to some, it was absolutely essential in order for me to focus my energy and efforts on what was most significant during my childhood all the way through my college years – my education and creating a better life for myself.

So let me share what worked for me, and feel free to use what works and feels comfortable for you at this time. Perhaps you are not ready to have that confrontational conversation to share how you [Continue Reading...]

Make a Difference ~Change the Lives of Others ~LICC Fundraiser Events

LICC wants everyone to know that it’s OK to ask for help.
LICC wants everyone to know that it’s OK to ask for help.

This one is for the adults… However, it will benefit the youth and families on Long Island so read on and see how you make a difference.

As a former volunteer Long Island Crisis Center (LICC) Crisis Counselor for seven years, I know the work that the volunteers do to support and empower the youth and families here on Long Island, so I wanted to share these very worthy fundraiser events with all of you.

Let’s support Long Island Crisis Center (LICC) Banding Together Against Bullying on this Sat, March 31st starting at 8pm. Live Bands and Multi-Venue Fundraiser Event with a suggested donation of $10 at the door. Raffle tickets for purchase – gift certificates and gift baskets.

http://www.longislandcrisiscenter.org/banding_together.html

Next month, on Mon, April 30th, 6 – 9pm, it’s Big Wines & Small [Continue Reading...]

Friends & Expectations – Feeling Misunderstood

Ashley and Sarina in Monaco, France – Contiki Europe Tour 7/2011
Ashley and Sarina in Monaco, France – Contiki Europe Tour 7/2011

On Friday, I was really feeling like that sad 5th grader that no one wanted to be friends with or spend time with because I kept messing up, didn’t always interact in the socially acceptable way or meet my friends’ expectations.

Mind you, I’ve come a long way in my life with friendships, relationships, and even in my career. However, back in Elementary School up through Middle School, I was the kid that had few true friends, and didn’t really have friends that stood up for me when being bullied or teased at school.

Getting back to how I was feeling yesterday. Earlier in the week, I reached out to one of my close friends from High School, Ashley, to see if we could get together this weekend and catch up. I [Continue Reading...]

Release What No Longer Serves You Well – Living the Yoga Lifestyle

Enlightenment Buddha -Signifies insight, purity of character, and self-mastery.
Photo taken on SE Asia trip – Grand Palace in Bangkok, Thailand - 2/2012 - 3/2012
Enlightenment Buddha -Signifies insight, purity of character, and self-mastery. Photo taken on SE Asia trip – Grand Palace in Bangkok, Thailand - 2/2012 - 3/2012

Release what no longer serves you well. Release your fears, doubts, self-limiting beliefs, and blocks to true happiness. Practice this everyday.

It’s about learning how to get out of your own way. Here’s another confession – this is my current biggest struggle. I have to keep reassuring myself that I’m on the right path and not to be concerned with everyone else’s thoughts or judgments. I need to tame my inner critic that wants to self sabotage and quit on me.

How does someone work on this? Well, my approach is to keep facing those fears, doubts, self-limiting beliefs and blocks to true happiness. Most importantly, I remind myself of what I have already accomplished, how I have already stepped outside my element/comfort zone and continue to do so, how I [Continue Reading...]

Traveling and Learning How to Step More Outside My Boundaries

Living the Lao Life on the Mekong River, Laos - GAdventures SE Asia trip, 2/2012 - 3/2012
Living the Lao Life on the Mekong River, Laos - GAdventures SE Asia trip, 2/2012 - 3/2012

Reflecting back on my SE Asia trip and what I’ve learned. I’ll miss you SE Asia – you have changed my life!! Thank-you for the opportunity, sharing your breathtaking natural wonders, a different perspective of life, culture and people with me!

SE Asia was definitely a very memorable and adventurous trip. Beyond happy that I decided to take this particular GAdventures Bangkok to Hanoi group tour, at this time in my life! I was able to truly interact with the natives and see how they live in the Hilltop Villages, the country, and in the city. Let me tell you that I didn’t miss the gym at all on this trip and I was able to have new experiences in the outdoors including rock-climbing up a waterfall, mountain bike riding, trekking through the [Continue Reading...]