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My Club Getaway Experience – Friends, Adventures, Nature, Risk-Taking, Memories!

14 Tuesday Aug 2012

Posted by Sarina in Adventures, Friendships, Happiness, Healthy Lifestyle, Hiking, Liberation, Life Lessons, Living in the Moment, Overcoming challenges, Relationships, Self-limiting beliefs, Stress Strategies, Success Strategies, Travel, Yoga

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Incredible views of the camp from the top of the mountain
at Club Getaway in Kent, Connecticut! What a sense of triumph from Hiking/Rock Climbing Adventure!!

Here’s to new adventures, good times, and stories to tell for years to come!!

Two weekends ago, I found myself with two of my close friends, Erica and AnneMarie, at Club Getaway getting reacquainted with our inner adult camper, adventurous selves, and lodging in rustic cabins.

On the first day, we hiked the Appalachian Trail for two hours and we conquered Caleb’s Peak and St John’s Ledge with a rainforest like experience on the way back. Steady, Safe, Strong!! This was the Self Mantra that I began to chant with my girls all the way back down the mountain trail to the bus making sure we didn’t slip off the rocks or ledges. It was definitely a fun time, with laughs, and adventures at Club Getaway even in the down pouring rain!

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Showing up as Your Authentic Self in Relationships

29 Tuesday May 2012

Posted by Sarina in Friendships, Life Lessons, Relationships, Respect and Honor, Self-limiting beliefs, Yoga

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Amanda Tomel (sister) + Sarina Tomel -LI Pulse Magazine Oct 2011 Cover Party - photo taken by Stephen Lang, Photographer

Here’s another confession, so brace yourself for what I’m about to share. I recognize that I can be really intense and have this honest straight-forward-tell-it-like-it-is personality. Let me share a funny dating story to help you get a better sense.

About three years ago during the summer time, I decided to give online dating, Jdate, a try, after being out there single and dating for almost a year. I was 30 years old and had previously ended a seven year relationship with a guy who insisted on us planning our wedding, but he couldn’t take the step to actually propose with a ring he supposedly had – yes, he definitely had commitment issues.

After exchanging a few emails, I had a phone conversation with this 28-year-old guy from White Plains, NY, I met [Continue Reading...]

Three Ways to Manage Difficult Conversations … Learn to Stand up for Yourself

30 Monday Apr 2012

Posted by Sarina in Conflict, Friendships, Relationships, Respect and Honor, Stress Strategies

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Rainbow at Machu Picchu, Peru One of my next Travel Adventures - Climbing Machu Picchu!

As much as I’m a very honest straight forward tell-it-like-it-is type of person, truth be told, I sometimes struggle with having those difficult confrontational conversations. Having to tell others “no” or how you will not spend time with them because you don’t agree with the decisions they make or their lifestyle or how they complain about everything but do nothing to change the situation, can be stressful and apprehensive.

Perhaps, it may be about how you are insulted or bothered by something a friend or coworker did, and you are not sure where it is coming from or the reason for such behavior. It could very well be nothing that you have done wrong at all, and this person may be angry or jealous of you for some reason that you [Continue Reading...]

Setting Boundaries – Being Bold or Less Confrontational

09 Monday Apr 2012

Posted by Sarina in Conflict, Friendships, Life Lessons, Relationships, Stress Strategies

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At a very young age, I learned that I needed to distance myself from people who weren’t truly my friends and even from my mother who has a dysfunctional approach to life. Basically, I came to understand the importance of creating boundaries to protect myself. As detached and awful as this might seem to some, it was absolutely essential in order for me to focus my energy and efforts on what was most significant during my childhood all the way through my college years – my education and creating a better life for myself.

So let me share what worked for me, and feel free to use what works and feels comfortable for you at this time. Perhaps you are not ready to have that confrontational conversation to share how you [Continue Reading...]

Friends & Expectations – Feeling Misunderstood

24 Saturday Mar 2012

Posted by Sarina in Conflict, Friendships, Life Lessons, Relationships, Respect and Honor

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Ashley and Sarina in Monaco, France – Contiki Europe Tour 7/2011

On Friday, I was really feeling like that sad 5th grader that no one wanted to be friends with or spend time with because I kept messing up, didn’t always interact in the socially acceptable way or meet my friends’ expectations.

Mind you, I’ve come a long way in my life with friendships, relationships, and even in my career. However, back in Elementary School up through Middle School, I was the kid that had few true friends, and didn’t really have friends that stood up for me when being bullied or teased at school.

Getting back to how I was feeling yesterday. Earlier in the week, I reached out to one of my close friends from High School, Ashley, to see if we could get together this weekend and catch up. I [Continue Reading...]